Where Two Flow As One

The Dance in Relationship

"A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul, so as to unite him with the source; her lowest calling is to seduce, separating man from his soul and leave him aimlessly wandering. A man’s highest calling is to protect woman, so she is free to walk the earth unharmed. Man’s lowest calling is to ambush and force his way into the life of a woman.”

― Native American Cherokee Proverb

The dance in relationship -- where two flow as one -- has at it's core the understanding of the masculine and feminine divine working together harmoniously and in sync.  Equality in partnership is understood to be complementary roles working together.   This isn't the "Father Knows Best" stereotyped caricature of early times.  Partnership is a deep and profound listening and supports of all the many aspects both men and women fulfill in daily living together.  Equal pay for equal work - absolutely.  Now let's take the dance to the big league and co-create a sustainable future from the highest possible expression of man and woman together.

How Are We Showing UP?

Noticing something about myself today -- how and when I am choosing to be totally vulnerable in my relationships? In the community I live with? In my work community? Close friends? And particularly in my "significant other" relationship. Have you ever looked at your level of engagement in relationship?  Does the barometer read "raining and cloudy", "partly sunny", or "brightly shinning"?

Reading Freefall, by Sally Anderson,  the chapter on extraordinary relationship, and noticed the following language;  "In such a relationship our focus is external. In other words, we think it’s the other person’s fault our relationship is the way it is. However, whenever we blame the other, we do so because we are expecting the other person to make us happy. A good relationship, and especially an extraordinary relationship, is about living at a high level of consciousness with a high level of commitment to our own happiness. Instead of being resigned to a mediocre experience, we experience intense passion. The focus is internal, which means we don’t look to our partner to make us happy. We recognize that our happiness is our self-responsibility."

I notice that I've said to other significant relationships, "I cannot MAKE YOU happy. Only you can make you happy."  So now I ponder the three fingers pointing back at me with that language and wonder where I have unconsciously been expecting my own happiness to be someone else's priority.

Where have I been externalizing my happiness?

Time to recommit to creating an extraordinary relationship with myself.

Original Artwork, Kiera M. Brown, 2012

I choose Love.
I choose Freedom.
I choose Faith.
I surrender.
I give up the fight.
I choose to be happy. 

  ---original artwork printed by permission of Kiera M. Brown

The Unfolding NOW. Taken from Facets of Unity - The Enneagram of Holy Ideas, by A.H. Almaas

The most central and basic insight is that of Holy Truth: that the totality of the cosmos is pure existence, pure Being. This means recognizing not only that presence is Essence inside of you, but recognizing that everything is presence. This is what is meant by stating that reality is existence, is Being, is presence. Presence is directly experiential; this presence in the present, in the now, is the meaning of Being. This presence in the now is not the juncture between the past and the future; not time. Presence exists only in the moment and not in the past or the future. Even physical reality is presence, but we do not ordinarily perceive this because we are looking only at its surface without perceiving its other levels. It is like perceiving only the skin of an onion and eliminating the rest of it so you take an onion to be brittle and stiff and believe that it has no soft and juicy part.

It is interesting that presence of Being is experienced as a nowness, but that this nowness is not a moment of time. The nowness is more of a medium, more of the actual presence, the actual consciousness, the actual substance of Being. When we realise it is everything that exists, we see that it includes all time. We see, in fact, that it is beyond time, and that time is merely a concept that exists within it.