Noticing something about myself today -- how and when I am choosing to be totally vulnerable in my relationships? In the community I live with? In my work community? Close friends? And particularly in my "significant other" relationship. Have you ever looked at your level of engagement in relationship? Does the barometer read "raining and cloudy", "partly sunny", or "brightly shinning"?
Reading Freefall, by Sally Anderson, the chapter on extraordinary relationship, and noticed the following language; "In such a relationship our focus is external. In other words, we think it’s the other person’s fault our relationship is the way it is. However, whenever we blame the other, we do so because we are expecting the other person to make us happy. A good relationship, and especially an extraordinary relationship, is about living at a high level of consciousness with a high level of commitment to our own happiness. Instead of being resigned to a mediocre experience, we experience intense passion. The focus is internal, which means we don’t look to our partner to make us happy. We recognize that our happiness is our self-responsibility."
I notice that I've said to other significant relationships, "I cannot MAKE YOU happy. Only you can make you happy." So now I ponder the three fingers pointing back at me with that language and wonder where I have unconsciously been expecting my own happiness to be someone else's priority.
Where have I been externalizing my happiness?
Time to recommit to creating an extraordinary relationship with myself.
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| Original Artwork, Kiera M. Brown, 2012 |
I choose Freedom.
I choose Faith.
I surrender.
I give up the fight.
I choose to be happy.
